Monday, August 30, 2010

真爱,不是以“热恋”来衡量的

经过了整26年的人生旅程,看过也经过不一样的爱情旅程,多多少少也会有所领悟!我很喜欢读读类似以下的文章,不一定赞同,但是肯定可以让我以不同的观点来看看同样的事。

这是一篇偶然在面子书(Facebook)发现到的短文,先让大家读读吧!
我们知道,爱是一种无私的付出和牺牲,爱的回报就是对方的永远快乐和幸福,如果你爱对方,那么你会因为对方快乐而快乐,因为对方幸福而幸福。无论是婚前的热恋中还是婚后的平淡生活中,只要你是真的爱对方,只要你为了你们的幸福生活而努力付出,那么天长地久的爱情就在你的身边,不是你拥有了天长地久的爱情,而是你创造了天长地久的爱情,难道这不是更好吗?
很多情侣,觉得爱情就非要爱得轰轰烈烈、"You jump, I jump!" 那样子。其实那些都是错误的想法!说得白一点,在爱情里有受过伤害的,肯定会知道,其实一段爱情会以不一样的时间点,被分为不同的阶段:
i)热恋
两人开始恋爱,彼此都想就此融入对方的心里,感觉这个世界就只属于两人共有。是一个最让人忘怀的阶段。
ii)被恋
过了热恋的阶段后,两人感情也步入较稳定的区域。这时候,肯定会有一方觉得是时候给与自己、对方多一点时间 来完成想要达成的事。但是,往往另一方会觉得不习惯,觉得他/她不那么爱自己了,会情不自禁的做了很多事,为的是想要维持之前的热恋激情而导致两人思想不一。这阶段很危险,也很容易发生冲突、意见不和、甚至是闹分手。
iii)自恋
如果能够通过第二个阶段,请暂时把你的“放心、开心”留在门外,因为第三个阶段是‘被恋’的升级版。两人如果可以在第二个阶段达到共识,接下来就会自然地要求给与彼此更多、更大的自主空间。这是一个极度危险的阶段,因为在这么一个独立的阶段,很容易被第三者,或是其他因素例如:思想以及目标的改变,而导致终日吵吵闹闹,最后走到分手下场。
iv)恋爱
能够走到这个阶段,才能真正体会到什么是爱情。两人可以互相扶持、信任,一起开创属于你和他/她的生活,拥有圆满的爱情。
其实,以上的名词都是从以下英文名词所得之:
- codependent,counterdependent,independent,interdependent

许多情侣都捱不过第二个阶段,导致分手后也会怨曾经爱过的那么一个他/她,那可是非常可惜的事!还没有恋爱的,或是在恋爱中的,要记得:一段感情的失败,并非只是他/她的错、不足,而是两个人的事;你没有资格怨恨他/她,因为你自己也必须负一半的责任。


“...这里是很危险的,你还是快点回去火星吧!”- 这是周星驰在电影[少林足球]里其中一个超经典的一个对白。往深一层想:地球这个养了上千上万种的人,很容易会因为不了解、体谅而产生冲突;即使是同肤色的,也可能因为误会而又斗争。这么看来,地球确实是很危险的...

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

How to check the Shutter Count for a DSLR?

A very serious price deterioration for DSLR nowadays. Most probably this is the consequences of the 'price war' between Canon & Nikon.

Few months back I'm shocked by my partner - Bob, about the Nikon D90 body only price dropped till plus minus RM2450. Compared to last year, price drop for around RM400, which create more and more so call photographers nowadays.

The price drop also giving me a chance to upgrade my camera to Full Frame DSLR, of course, I support only Nikon. Before I get my D700, I have to let go my D90. That's why I create a free advertisement at Muday.com.my - one of the very popular free ads site.

Within 3 days, I received more than 20 SMS to ask for the price negotiation for my D90. However, before they start negotiate, definitely they would like to know one most commonly asked question:

"What is the number of the shutter count?"

Although I may not honest to myself all the time, but I feel no point to cheat the buyer. Therefore, I sent them one URL with 1 latest photo taken from my D90 to show them the exact shutter count of my camera.
#1
1. Check the radio button 'From file', and select the latest photo capture from your camera/DLSR.

2. Then click 'View image from file', and wait for approximately 1min, if your photo size is more than 1.5MB (some slower, depending on your internet speed)

3. Afterwards, you'll see the some basic information of your camera, settings, and etc.

4. From here, you'll know the camera's age as well. Just refers to [Date], you'll see how long the camera has been used.

#2
To view the Shutter Count, simply press 'Ctrl-F' and search the word 'Shutter', it will lead you to the 'Shutter Count' info.

Very simple isn't it? You may save this link to check the Camera's age and Shutter Count when you want to buy a used camera/DSLR.

Start to check this out!!

Friday, August 20, 2010

是晴天?

乌黑的天终于有望转晴了,
心中的巨石也轻了一大半..

因为之前预测不到的暴风,
导致现在的我还心有余悸,
虽然心已松但却留了阴影..

是时候要克制自己的心魔,
也是时候为未来有所行动,
更应该减少对自己的疑惑,
又或是他或她的过去事迹..

我恢复了以前早睡的习惯,
也恢复了之前早醒的良习,
总觉得早醒的脑袋特别清,
清晨吃的早餐也特别美味,
对着翠绿的花草我也笑了..

我想,这就是了...

我的外甥 - 振翼,可爱吧!

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Medusa - The famous Gorgons in Greek Mythology

Special thanks to the movie - "Clash of the Titan" that make me want to know more about the most famous Gorgons in Greek Mythology - Medusa.

I get to know Medusa through one of the famous game from Blizzard - "Warcraft III", and at that time I thought Medusa was just one of the character created by a group great designers of Blizzard.*shame* However, it is not...The name - 'Medusa' already live in this world for centuries.

Medusa, once the most beautiful women in the world, and this make a lot of mans lined up to date her. These 'mans' include one the god named Poseidon (the god of sea). He seduce Medusa, and both found lay together by Athena in her temple. This 'unacceptable affair' discovery make Athena very angry, and transform Medusa's beautiful long hair into serpent with a scary face; and curse her to turn anyone that she looking at into stone/rock.

If you 'googling' there are more than one version about Medusa, but i found the abovementioned are most commonly used to describe Medusa....

a view from Phoenix City of China (凤凰古城)...

Sunday, August 15, 2010

真情不一定要复杂

张小娴终于要推出最新的一本作品:《我的爱如此麻辣》,马来西亚应该还要等多一个多月吧!

在这本书的影音预告,有一段女主角向男孩的告白:

...浩山,为什么我从前不懂单纯踏实的美好,反而以为爱情只能以复杂的东西去换取。直到如今,我才明白,真情不见得要用复杂的东西去证明。就好像考验一个厨师的往往是最简单平凡的食材;一颗鸡蛋,或是一蓝马铃薯。浩山,请原谅我伤害了你...

女主角也是在失去后,才领悟到之前是自己将应属于简单的东西复杂化了,导致失去了一个真挚的爱,也伤害了自己所爱的人,那又是何苦?往往给自己众多‘不能爱’、‘不敢爱’的原因而裹足不前,直到失去了才后悔,这悲剧几乎每分每秒都在世界各处上演,但是有人愿意配合另外一半去阻止吗?一半以上的人都没有,以为‘牺牲’、‘割舍’就能显得很伟大,又或是一种‘成全’;独自一人空虚的时候,脑海又开始播映两人的点点滴滴,泪水才满溢而下,这就是‘伟大’、‘成全’应有的后果吗?

简单或复杂,都是基于一个人怎么去看待、选择;可是,上天往往将一个喜欢将复杂化的,配对于给一个事事都简单化的人。虽然性格截然不同,不过他们肯定是可以互补的一对,因为他有的她没有,而她有的就可能会是他需要的...

已经说得很好听了,但又会有几个人赞成?赞成的,又会有多少人跟从?


一对结婚戒指,放在耀眼夺目的水晶灯里,呈现出另一种意境的融合...

Friday, August 13, 2010

Funny agent from Zitron outlet

Two weeks ago, I drive all the way down from Bayan Lepas to Pulau Tikus, step into Zitron (Nokia Phone & Accessories dealer) outlet to buy a replacement battery for my Nokia 6500 Slide. I thought this outlet can improve and become outclass than other competitors compared to two years back, as iPhone & Blackberry already become a "threat" to Nokia nowadays. However, I'm still getting the same answer as two years ago:

"..sorry sir, if you want, we need to order and will call you once we receive the stock.."

As usual, I just can response with "Thank you!"

Two days ago, I receive a call from that outlet, and one male agent start to greet me as below -

Zitron Dealer: "..Good Evening Mr. Tan, this is xxx from Nokia Centre! Previously you order one Nokia battery from us right?"

*Of course I am!!
*

Me: "Yes!"

Zitron Dealer: "..May i know what is the battery model that you order?"

*What the hell!?!?*

Me: "Hello, I'm using the phone to talk to you now, how to give you the battery model right now!?!!? I'm using 6500 Slide, can you check it out?"

Nokia Dealer: "..Ya, i knew this is 6500 Slide, but just want to confirm whether I order the right one for you, because status shows no stock available in our system even in KL"

Me: "Bro, you are Nokia Dealer, if you don't know, then who can order the right/original battery for me?!!"

Zitron Dealer: ".Oh, just want to inform that due to part shortage, you might need to wait for another 1-2 weeks..."

Me: "OK, keep me posted then!"

What a unprofessional service that I get from Zitron outlet Penang.

an adorable gift from Thailand, of course it is brought by one of my Thai friend - Natee. Actually this is a white chocolate in tiny ball shape. With the packing design, it just looks like a cute panda. Like what McD always said "I'm Lovin it!"

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

坦白 | 不坦白?

前几天读了张曼娟的一篇博文《不可原谅的外遇》,发现原来‘幼稚’是可以没有年龄界限地形容一个人的无知。

里边的女主角因为丈夫苦苦哀求且甜言蜜语,让她勉强地接受了丈夫的外遇,不过提出先分开一阵子才决定离不离婚。在这段悲痛欲绝的日子里,她竟然也和认识了好一段时间的厂商发生了一夜情;经过了这一夜情,她才可以真正地接受且面对丈夫外遇的事实,两人也再次在一起,过着甜蜜的生活。直到有一天,这女主角决定和丈夫坦白,得到的回应:
男人是被诱惑的,女人却是主动的

换句话说,丈夫十分在意、责怪妻子的外遇,却不曾想过自己的外遇被妻子发现时的心情是什么。这段感情也因为这样再次破碎...

有的网友说女主角很傻,在不应该坦白的时候坦白;有的就觉得这些爱情悲曲,每天都在重播,接受现实就是了。但是,很多网友觉得这都是她丈夫的不是,以一句:“只许州官放火,不许百姓点灯” 来形容这男人让人痛恨的想法,实在很贴切。

我本身很支持女主角的坦白,虽然心真的会像被撕裂般的痛,但这次后,也应该没有借口让她留在丈夫身边了...以一颗无悔的心,才能真正离开不属于她和他的世界,开始一个新生活!

五彩缤纷的LED灯,对上灯光强烈的吊灯,所有吸引力都被吊灯抢走了...不禁,它们会想:
为什么要同一时间,在同一个拥有它们两者呢?

Sunday, August 08, 2010

不幸的种种,可以离我远去吗?

近期,不幸的事接二连三地到访我的家,精神上我快撑不住了...几个星期前,姐夫在吉隆坡这被称为首都的烂地方被两个死有余辜的印裔打抢,在没有反抗的情况下还是被打得神志不清,要及时入院开脑动手术...几个星期后,总算也痊愈得七七八八了。

今天,又收到从金马伦高原回家途中的姐姐得知他们遇上车祸了。第一消息说他们两个下半身没有知觉,要立即送院。独自一个在家里的我,急得比热锅上的蚂蚁还要严重,想直接飞车到怡保附近的医院找他们,但被爸爸制止了...原本想先斩后奏的我,也为了不让爸妈担心,而乖乖地呆在家里,以担心的心情对着四堵墙,什么也做不了...

我很讨厌这种‘什么都做不了’的心情,因为在这种心情,情绪很容易失控,说/做错了什么也不知道。而且,要做什么都会做不好....

这是一张摄影比赛的作品。还记得那时候也是为了某些事而完完全全影响了比赛的心情...但是,我也尽了101%的力,提交作品却一一失败了,也真的很失落...