‘悲伤’，可以使人生更完美

几个小时前，看见一个还算认识的朋友，在面子书（Facebook）的一张她和另外一半（过去式）的结婚注册照片下留言：

“...现在我和他已经是朋友而已..”

上个星期在龙尾的Bali Bali Food Court 遇到她，很高兴她还记得我是一个她曾经认识的人。读了这个留言后，我莫名地感受得到她的痛，可能是勾起我某些悲痛的回忆吧！

我很佩服她的做法，胆敢地面对，毫无掩饰的对要好的朋友说出来，没有拖拖拉拉，也把悲伤的期限缩到最短...想起两年前的我，用了漫长的时间才能放下，还真的自愧不如！

借这个机会，以一个路人甲的身份来支持你：

“...人生应该要有酸、甜、苦、辣，才能称得上‘完美’！‘悲伤’，能够让你认识一个人，也会让你更认识你自己；你挨过了这个‘关卡’，就是苦尽甘来的时候了...加油！”

**送你一张我外甥的照片，希望能让你笑一笑

“....这是什么？怎么味道那么怪？...”

我又长大了一点...

我很喜欢写日记，时常把日记当成是自己的镜子，空闲时拿在手上翻阅，看看过去的自己是怎么一个样子...

有时候感到自己的步伐快了一些，甚至在脑袋阻塞时时常会怀疑自己的方向是否正确。清醒了，也想通了：

人生短短几十年，今天不知明天的事；与其在适当的年龄做适当的事，倒不如跳出年龄的框框 - 在适当的时候做适当的事，潇潇洒洒地在人生旅途走一回！

面子书看见自己离以前所谓的‘死党’纷纷都有了另一半，心里很是欣慰；同时，却很悲哀，因为离他们越来越远，心里真的不是滋味。幸酸的当儿，只好把人生目标摆在第一位，向前冲刺。

我比较长大了吗？外表是吧！因为第一次看见我的人都觉得我的年纪比真实年龄至少多了两岁，我也不知该开心还是伤心了。

那内在呢？也应该有吧！

爸..妈，我都很喜欢!

几乎家里每个人都有早醒的习惯。也因为有这习惯，即使我上早班（6:30am -3:30pm），都不会空着肚子上班，因为妈妈都会为我们准备早餐；哪怕是最清淡的面汤，我都一定会很享受的吃。

不过，每当用完早餐，拿起那杯香味扑鼻的咖啡时，我就有点压力了...因为....

如果那是妈妈冲泡的咖啡，都会是少奶多咖啡；而爸爸却刚好相反，都是多奶少咖啡。和妈妈独处在厨房吃早餐时，如果那是爸爸泡的咖啡，妈妈就会小小声地说：

“...看，你爸泡的，几乎都没有咖啡味...”

通常，我都只会以笑笑回之，然后在她前边慢慢的喝到肚子里边去，然后对她说：“...我都很喜欢...”

如果我把早餐拿到客厅那里，边吃边看戏的话，那爸爸就会说：

“...你妈泡的咖啡，就像Kopi 'O' 一样，我还可以用那壶咖啡冲泡多一壶出来...太浓了...”

同样的，我也会在爸爸面前将那杯咖啡喝至滴水不留，也对他说：“...两个不同的味道，我都很喜欢...”

他们之所以有这样的‘比较’，并不是因为感情不好了，不然的话，这些话就会在对方的面前脱口而出了...我想了很久，发现了一些很有趣的现象...

如果那个星期，我们拿出比较多时间陪他们出去这里逛逛，那里走走的话，我就不会听到这些含有‘比较’性质的话了。

可能我们都不能像以前那样子，时时都在他们身边伴随着，因此想用他们的拿手的咖啡来衡量在我们心目中的地位。这种现象，也让我很自责，有些话真的不能只放在心中，我很想在他们两人面前，对他们说：

“..爸，妈，你们亲手泡的咖啡，我都很喜欢，这就好像我对你们的爱一样，是没有分别的！”

中秋节将至，祝大家可以和家人一起渡过一个欢乐的中秋.....

不一样的领悟：“这就是爱情了”

偶然在面子书读到一篇还蛮有意思的短文，题目[这就是爱情了]，内容如下：

有一晚，男友問女友︰「如果有個條件更好的男人追求妳，妳…會走嗎？」
女友堅定地說不會，但男友似乎很不相信。
於是，女友寫了以下的故事給男友︰
　
從前一位小和尚問老和尚：「甚麼是愛情？」
老和尚叫小和尚走向麥田，然後摘下一顆最大的麥，但絕對不能回頭，只能摘一顆。
小和尚走著走著，發現一顆看起來很大的麥，但他心想前面的可能有更大，因此沒有給摘下來。他抱著這個想法一直向前走，沒想到已經走完了整個麥田，但他雙手空空如也。
老和尚就跟小和尚說：「這就是愛情了。」

　　每個人都跟小和尚一樣，心想真的得到最好的，但沒想到時間一幌，人生已經終結。在我們人生中，總有些人比較好，條件很優厚，只是剛錯過了時間。或許會可惜，或許會悔恨，若干年後你可能會想怎麼當年瞎了眼嫁給那笨蛋？
　　
　　可是，如果人生不斷的追求「最完美」，便會永遠沉淪在追求當中，看著緣份一次次的溜走。
　
　　情侶，最好的不一定合適；但能夠合適的已經是最好。
　
　　女友說︰「你在合適的時間出現，做了合適的事，在我來說已經是無可取替的好了。」

和其他人稍微讨论过这篇文章，发现大家和我领悟的有所不同。

他们都说：

“这篇文章主要劝告世人，要懂得珍惜眼前人，不要因为贪心前边的诱惑而失去了心爱的人...”

是珍惜没错！多我来说，如果我不想要拿眼前这颗大麦，意味着我跟本不想要它；对一个自己不想要的‘东西’（或是人），怎么会被说成不珍惜？日后又怎么会后悔呢？

而那一些会后悔的人，谁能保证即使他/她‘珍惜’了眼前人也不会后悔？

总的来说，这篇文章的重点是要让我们自己更认识、清楚自己想要的是什么；领悟了，结果也会可能有两个：

- 第一：自己最想要的，就是现在手握的大麦

- 第二：知道自己想要的， 是前边闪亮的大麦

无论是什么答案，只要把东西弄清楚，不做长久的伤害，这都没有对错之分！当然，大前提也是对自己做的决定负责，然后要懂得珍惜。

我就是喜欢大自然...好美的蝴蝶！

Going the Distance - a romance & comedy movie

I still can't believe I went for this movie few days back, as previously I'm not the type of person can watch this kind of 'unknown' movie (because I totally never heard this movie before) late at night, and guess what, I even watch this movie at Gurney Plaza - Penang most famous shopping mall which located at the most traffic jam area.

Queue up, and finally I holding the movie tickets in hand, I'm still asking what is this movie about, and I get blank info for this movie, and just walk towards the cinema with full of question mark round and round on my head, I just hope I wouldn't fall asleep, or walk out the cinema before the movie end.

Flip over the movie ticket, I found one red stamp sign on the ticket: "For above 18 only", something came to my mind is either this movie contained a lot of sexual (18SX) or violent (18PL) scenes. Mmm...interesting!

Surprisingly, I laughed within the first 10 minutes, and I can confirm this is a comedy movie as the dialog are just funny, and make you have no other choice but laugh.

Synopsis:

a terrible guy named Garrett (Justin Long) break up with his girl friend because he not even understand why a girl still expect a present during her birthday even though she said : "..no, you don't need to buy anything for me..".

He was sad, gather around his room mate and a best friend, having a man's talk in a bar, with a lot of beer. In the bar, this is where he meet Erin (Drew Barrymore) at the "Centipede" game machine.

After the drink, they were sleep together, and they thought they can just treat this as 'one-night-stand', but they couldn't. Garrett still date Erin even he been told that she just have another 6 weeks in New York, and she'll be back to San Fransisco to continue her studies afterwards.

6 weeks past, they knew they already fall in love to each other seriously, and that's how they decide to maintain this long distance relationship. It isn't easy as they thought: time difference, distance, trust, ....

I'll give 6/10 stars to this movie. If you think you haven't laugh out loud for a long time, then you can consider this movie. :-)

Confused by the Nikon free calender

This week (weak) I'm just 'sick', head always spinning round and round; and my mind always turned into 'Sleep Mode' like the Windows Vista or Windows 7.

Why? This is a 'no-answer-question' to me as well. What I can think of is time for my body to have some 'maintenance'. One the way that I can think of to get rid of this 'sick' feeling is REST (= sleep). It has been a decades that I never sleep for more than 10 hours since my scouting life during high school; surprisingly I did it on the past Wednesday, which consider a movie day for many youngster, but I have 'recharge' myself for one whole night.

Thursday morning, I feel better. Maybe psychologically feel that I suppose to feel better after the long rest; but seems I was wrong...

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Discussing about the Langkawi trip with colleagues, and Malaysia Day which held on 16-September-2010 holiday was brought into the topic as well. One of the colleague told me it is on Thursday; after take a look to my desk calender, I correct her it suppose fall on Monday, not Thursday.

Everyone were just look at me, and ask me whether I look at the August one but not September. Their statement rendered me stunned as my eyes still reflecting the big bold words "SEPTEMBER 2010" from the calender, but I just don't know why I was wrong? Am I over-rest? or something went wrong from me?

At that moment, I'm blank, and just subservient to counter-check the calender again and again. Finally, I found that I was right, and at the same time I was wrong; but at least, i got the answer. :-)

Take a look at the date: after 12-September-2010, it jump to 16-September-2010. The following week, after 19-September-2010, it jump to 23-September-2010.

Yeah, it is the calender's fault.